To baby or not to baby

social trends over the last 29 years; firstly divorce and secondly the culture of therapy and awareness of child development overall results of numerous studies and analysis find that  children from divorced families are on average somewhat worse off than children who have lived in intact families. These children have more difficulty in school, more behavior problems, more negative self- concepts, problems with peers and more trouble setting into happy relationships. This is not to assume that all children in divorced families are worse than all children in intact families. I’m from a broken home and it has made me respect the institution of marriage and the family unit more because l’m aware how much divorce can tear children apart. So maybe this means my generations of ‘kidult’ are likely to spend more time looking for good relationship before having children which l think is incredible responsible.

I know a lot of older women who want children but just don’t feel they’ve met the right man jet. Forty years ago man and woman met fell in love, got married and had children. Then it all went wrong. Marriages and starting a family occurred with the first or second person you met but nowadays people aren’t just looking for someone who’s available but who’s desirable and suitable in that should be commended.

Money is also a factor. Many women in their late 20s or early 30s are still paying off their student loans and in rented accommodation so how will they be able to afford childcare which is increasingly expensive. Why should people be vilified for considering economic stability which is essential for bringing children into the world?

 And there are those women who have only just stated to enjoy their disposable income and they have the freedom to travel and party and create fantastic experiences for themselves. And why shouldn’t these women celebrate the lives they’ve worked hard to build. If it means they aren’t getting married or procreating for the moment then so be it.

Europe is aware of the decline in birth rates. Due to the continuing trend of delayed marriage and childbirth European commission have organized conferences to examine the problem.