The lessons in love.

For me the start of a new love relationship is the best and worst of the times. It is exhilarating and exhausting at the same time. It is the rollercoaster of emotions-sometimes plunging deep and completely opening up but if that turns to neediness you hold back and climb back up to safety.

Anyone who knows anything about love, life and relationships will tell you that firstly make sure you are with the right person that is far easier to say than achieve you can spend three with a person before realizing they are not your soul mate. When you experience a strong connection with someone and an uncanny synchronicity, then you are probably well on your way to falling in love. Someone you connect with on such a deep level that you feel like you can touch their soul and know their real self. We must face so many struggles in life alone but having someone with you see we only spend a short amount of time on this planet and it is important to spend it with the right person.

 There are those who, because of the past hurts believe that attachment causes suffering and so attach themselves to being detached ironically they are attach to the idea of detachment.

“ You’ll suddenly open your eyes and you’ll look around and in all the chaos of the universe you’ll look  at the person and realize the two of you see each other and everything else is in chaos ” Richard Bandler.

  I think relationships change as we get older, they can heal us and teach us and I love that, people do not like it when someone tries to explain love as if it kills the spirit of it but the more you learn the more you love and the less you hurt. I have learnt you can be trapped by your own fears of leaving a relationship or too scared to get into one, either way the truth is that person is not free.

  “It is important to recognize the difference between real love and other kinds of love. Love can be addictive and make us crazy. Real love is different. Real love is about doing the act of loving the other person and being loved as much in return. It is about giving yourself to another from a place of not needing to but simply wanting to more than anything in the world it is about unconditionally committing yourself to