The lessons in love.

I feel irritated when people make the same mistakes repeatedly when it comes to love.

It has always been a preoccupation of mine, to understand it and learn about the real nature of it in the hope.

That someday I can master it and acquire it. Telling the difference between love and lust can be a tough task I have thought I was in love many time before when all that was at play was a strong dose of chemicals and rose-tinted glasses. Now I can manage to separate the rush of adrenaline and dopamine that sends my stomach into washing machine mode from the rationality to see if the person is well suited to me but its taken years to learn this. It is vital to revisit your perception on love as it is should be a view that develops and grows.

What I do know is that relationships get either better or worse from day one but it is hard to see which way it’s going when you’re in it. In addition, that churning storm of emotion will fade like all storms come to an end and you better hope you had the sense to see beyond the temporary blindness and choose the right person. Another certainty is that opposites do attract but after a few Years, you end up hating each other or boring each other to death, as you never had much in common in the first place.

If I am truly in love with a person, their values will usually mach my own. This methodical but for me true love is something I can explain .I would have pitied the person who asked me to do this 10 years ago and harped on about how love is unexplainable, moments of manic state of ecstasy that devastate and depress before whipping you up on a high again. I was obsessed with the idea that we were born to love the one that hurt us the most. What a load of rubbish! I use to revel in the romantic nation that real love had you at the mercy of an emotional torture chamber. Nevertheless, real love is a healing and honest environment.