Communication has a vital role to play in any marriage or relationship. No sense of understanding in relationship means absence of communication. Relationships have crumbled because of couples’ inability to talk or discuss their problems, misunderstanding and feelings amicably.

Often times, most marriages hit the rock not long after they have been solemnized because of the inability of the two partners to come to terms on some matters. Good communication is essential for a good relationship, but all too often, this ingredient is sadly missing.

A lot of things go into making a relationship or marriage successful and one of those is the ability to communicate. Couples should learn to talk about every thing, no matter how little because love cannot take a distance. Two people in love should learn to communicate if they hope to understand each other. As you communicate, you are learning to know about yourself, sharing your feelings. It involves a two-way thing. The speaker and the listener. Both are vital in any relationship.

There is this childhood friend of mine who got married to a guy she didn’t really know. Throughout their six months courtship, they did most of the interactions through phone. So they didn’t really get to communicate. Well, they got married and hell was let loose because my friend didn’t really know the temperament of the man. In every little thing, he flares up. To start with, the guy had this domineering and commanding tone. So she felt she had made a mistake. I advised her to talk it over with him instead of bottling it up inside her. Don’t forget, these people came from two separate background, there are bound to be friction, Well, she did discussed it with him and today after six years, she is having a blissful marriage. You do not assume this is what your spouse wants to say or mean. Don’t think for your partner, instead talk it out.

You know, women are so different from that strange but wonderful male species. We often start from totally different premises when we try to communicate. Don’t forget, communication is not prying . Genuinely talk about your fear, worries and even your moment of triumph with your partner. It will do a whole lot of good to your relationship. A man talks to his partner so he can express ideals and information. A woman wants to talk about feelings and emotions. A woman express her love by words and expect words in return. But for the male folks, it is not so. A man express his love by actions – by sexual intercourse, bringing home his paycheck and so no. A woman wants words and tenderness, he gives her material goods. Is it any wonder we sometimes have trouble communicating?

A couple who never discuss serious issues are bound to be a jumble of nerves and frustration. You must cultivate an air of openness with your partner. Talking will enable you know more about each other. Don’t pretend. That is the problem most marriages are facing. You want to pretend about everything in a bid to secure the relationship. Wrong, it destroy it instead. Be yourself and let your feelings show No matter how earth shaken your love is, if communication is minimal, there is bound to be trouble. Talk about the future, especially after a long time in the relationship. Analyse your future life, finance, life style, sexual expectations, job and children. Infact, talk about everything and find out if you agree on these and if not, try to reach a compromise amongst yourself and then get counsel.

Learn to communicate. That means talk about everything in your relationship or marriage and your marriage will change for the best. Remember, no marriage is made in heaven. It needs our attention and care to make it a dream one and God will bless you.